A Collection of Lifestyle Options: Brittney Tataryn
Finding your own personal style of living can feel overwhelming. You truly can create any kind of lifestyle that brings you happiness, but to do so you need the self-awareness to know what that will look like for you. It can help to know what options are out there other, so each month we’ll be sharing an interview with a human who marches to the beat of their own drum. Think of this as another form of guidance; a showcase of lifestyles to create awareness in the diverse ways that people live. Together we will explore how people have structured their lives in a way that inspires others to break the mold and lead their most authentic lives.
Give us the basics: name, age, where you live, anything else you want to share?
My name is Brittney Tataryn… it feels super weird to be filling out my own interview. I keep thinking “who do I think I am?”. Good ol’ imposter syndrome.
Anywho - I live in Calgary with my partner Isaac and our zoo. We have a doggo, Olaf (yes he has his own IG) and our three cats Stella, Dent and Winnie. I’ve had a wild journey these last few years, but I’m finally in a place where I am content af and loving life!
Do you have any hobbies?
So many! Gardening, painting, colouring, crafting, reading (thinking of starting an online book club; comment below if you’d be interested). I realized earlier this year that I didn’t actually know how to relax or have fun. A lot of my self-work lately has been devoted to simply enjoying living life. It’s been glorious!
What do you do for fun?
Take the doggo to the park with Isaac, go on epic walking adventures, mountain road trips, ladies weekends, dance parties, baking, sitting by the river in the sun, sex, sitting outside on my fairyland balcony… fun has become one of my core values.
I’ve also recently gotten back into live music! I’m so excited to be volunteering at two festivals in Calgary this summer, Sled Island and Folk Fest! Partially because I get a wristband and can check out the shows, but also to get back into that community. Some of my best times in my early twenties were made during these festivals; I want that feeling back.
What do you do for work?
This! APS is my full time gig. I sell our Course, as well as write. I’ve found I missed writing actual research articles, so looking to expand my writing career as well. I also take on odd jobs when I want the extra cash, because student loans *insert facepalm here* which has also helped expose me to some pretty rad things I might never have otherwise been a part of.
How do you start your days? Any rituals or routines?
Before I get out of bed I take a few deep breaths and a quick body scan to connect with my limbs. I’ll set my intention for the day, usually something simple like “May I flow with ease and grace.” I try to move my body in some way every morning, either simple stretches, yoga, or a dance party. I also meditate every morning, sometimes outside on my balcony listening to the birds or in my studio with a timer, or even just a quick minute of deep breathing. Finally, I always read my tarot cards. It helps me connect with my intuition and guides.
How do you end your days?
The same way nearly every night - bath, wash my face, gratitude journal, cuddles with Isaac and Olaf.
What do you wear on weekdays? Weekends?
I work from home and for myself, so I can wear whatever I want! I make the effort to get dressed everyday now. I’ve found it helps me believe in myself and my business. It also reminds me of who I am, and who I want to be. And it encourages adventuring because I’m already set to go!
I’m usually in linen pants, flowy skirt or vintage jeans and some kind of top (usually cropped, tucked in or knotted at the waist - I love my curves!). Otherwise a long dress or jumpsuit.
What does your wardrobe look like?
SO PRETTY. Seriously. I’m in love with it. So many silks and linens in pretty colours like cream, black, pink and rust. Some royal blues, some denim . I feel like I’ve truly found myself and my closet reflects that.
Do you have any favourite things in your closet?
A couple vintage pieces I found in Toronto, my rust silk Elizabeth Suzann dress, a vintage silk Dior robe with the coolest pattern, and a vintage shawl with hand embroidered flowers from a dear friend.
What kinds of clothing do you feel like your best self in?
Things that either make me look like a fabulous, luxurious witch or a fairy. But I’ve also recently developed a love for high waisted vintage jeans. I’m so excited about being able to wear them now, because it means I’m not in pain (endo-belly is real my friends).
What are some of your favourite stores or brands?
Value Village, Salvation Army & Goodwill hahahaha - seriously. Most of my wardrobe is secondhand, with a few key pieces from my most favourite slow fashion brands: notPERFECTLINEN, Elizabeth Suzann, Hendrik Lou, Beaton Linen, Ora Leather Goods, Sevilla Smith & Black Tulip Hats.
For other brands I’m into, either for their aesthetics or ethics, look here.
What kinds of foods do you eat?
I’m really into bowls. And tacos. I pretty much alternate between the two. Bowls of oatmeal or yogurt with raw nuts in the morning and burrito, curry or “whatevers in the fridge” bowls for most other meals. I’m also nauseated pretty often because of my stomach, so when I can’t stomach real food I have lots of juices to make sure my blood sugar is still okay.
And sour dough in all its glorious forms - bread, pizza crust, pancakes, mmmmmm. I enjoy baking things from scratch. It makes me feel closer to my ancestors.
How often do you go out for dinner? Where’s your favourite place?
I’m obsessed with the Avenida Food Hall right now thanks to Lisa of Adorn Infusions. So many different types of food, all super affordable and all made by people who are passionate about food, sharing their culture and supporting Mother Earth. Pretty sure going there is about to become our new weekly date.
What’s your favourite recipe?
The burger with garlic aioli in the Heal Your Gut Cookbook.
What do you do to move your body?
Dance! I have a dance party everyday. Also having Olaf has changed my life. I walk at least once a day, sometimes for up to 4 hours - I love walking again. I also stretch everyday.
6 months ago I had a hard time getting out of the house most days because of chronic pain. All of this is possible thanks to cannabis, something I’m going to start teaching more about. Now I’m out and about nearly every single day! And because of that I’ve been able to do more things to help support my body, to the point where I’m now starting to be able to do things I physically couldn't without experiencing any pain at all!
What fills you up?
Following my intuition and heart.
What drains you?
… not following them! Also not a big fan of crowds.
What are some of your core values?
Kindness. Love. Hope. Faith. Fun. Beauty. Integrity. Honesty.
What are some of your dreams?
Living in our own home on land somewhere out in the country where Olaf can run around, Isaac can take stunning pictures right from our backyard and I can have a huge garden. That’s the ultimate dream.
Also, having enough money to be debt-free and build savings. I dream of one day being able to follow any opportunity that makes my heart sing without worrying about how I would pay for it; the money will simply be there. It would be wonderful to make enough to be able to support Isaac doing the same as well. This or something better.
Do you have set career goals?
Right now my goal is to keep things simple, go with the flow, and trust in myself. I wholeheartedly consider that a career goal.
Do you know what your purpose is in life?
To help people love themselves so they can show up wholeheartedly in their lives and act from love instead of fear.
What do you love about yourself?
Literally everything. Even Herman and Igor (my nicknames for the endosalpingiosis and anxiety).
That said, a few months ago I wouldn’t have been able to answer this question at all. Life is mind boggling.
What does success mean to you?
Being able to look myself in the mirror at the end of the day and be proud of myself. My mom taught me that!
To me, success also means being content, happy and participating in life.
What is your biggest fear?
Bahahaha I deal with anxiety - the gremlin in my brain has all the fears. I’m quite a creative human. But when I can keep him quiet, I find I don’t have to fear anything because I trust I am safe and my ancestors, angels and guides are looking out for me.
What rituals or practices are important to you?
I could write a book on them. Perhaps one day I will. I’ll definitely be sharing more about this on APS for sure!
But the simplest, most important one is to remember to breathe. I’ve spent many years holding my breath; that’s not healthy.
How do you pay for your lifestyle?
Right now, Isaac supports the both of us while I focus on growing this business and I pitch in with whatever I can. I’m also lucky to have magical friends in my life who are healers and entrepreneurs, so we have a pretty wicked trading system set up. And, I’m a master at finding things for free on Kijiji. It’s wild.
I’ve learned I don’t need money to be happy. I currently have the least amount of money I’ve ever had in my life, but I’m the happiest and freest I’ve ever been. I’m excited to start experiencing the combination of feeling this deeply rooted in my own self-worth and enjoying financial abundance at the same time. It’s a balance of being content with where I’m at while still wanting to grow and expand.
What’s one thing that’s helped you on your journey that you wish more people knew about?
That changing your perspective to one of love instead of fear can change your life. I’m not talking about situations where you are in danger, but in most situations you have the opportunity to choose between love and fear. You have a choice in how you respond to the events of your life.
Another is this quote from the Inner Compass Guidance Deck: “Make sure that you do not use your imagination to create anything you do not really want to manifest”. While I don’t think manifestation comes from your thoughts, I do deeply believe in the confirmation bias. You see what you expect to see, and will search for evidence to prove your thoughts and beliefs are correct because your ego hates being wrong.
If your thoughts and beliefs come from a place of fear, you will notice things that confirm life is something to fear; it creates a downward spiral. If you begin to come from a place of love, you notice more about your life to love. It can be literally the exact same circumstance, but your beliefs have the power to change how you experience it. Sounds simple, but has taken me a long time to understand and integrate.
Anything else you’d like to share?
No one knows what the fuck they’re doing, or why they’re here. We’re all just making it up as we go, trying to make sense of the world. It really doesn’t matter what the “right” or “wrong” choice is because there isn’t one - there’s only steps you take on your journey. Some light you up and bring you closer to fulfilling your purpose, others teach you lessons so you can perhaps make a different choice next time. It’s all perfect.
You are important. You matter. You deserve to take up space. You deserve to be loved - by yourself and other people. You deserve to be surround by people who are enthusiastic about being a part of your life, but keep in mind people are simply mirrors reflecting where you aren’t showing up for yourself. You have the right to say no. You can decide how you want your life to be. You are only responsible for your own happiness.
Now, I invite you to take a few minutes, put on your favourite song, and dance, even if it’s just a shoulder wiggle in your chair or shaking it out in a bathroom stall at work. Whenever you feel stuck or overwhelmed, dance it out. Your body is a miracle; try to not take it for granted.