Find a quiet space, take a few deep breaths, and spend some time answering the questions below. Be as open, honest and vulnerable as possible - this space is for you and you alone. You don’t need to share these answers with anyone unless you choose to do so.
When you’re ready, move through to the Practices section.
Worthiness Reflection Questions
Do you believe you have the right to take personal space to take care of yourself?
Do you put everyone else before yourself – their needs, wants, and desires?
Do you feel like your body is worth loving? Liking?
Do you use clothing or shopping as a pick-me-up?
Do you feel like you need to look a certain way to be respected or seen?
Do you think your wants and needs are important?
Do you feel good about yourself?
Do you believe you’re worthy of having beautiful things?
Do you believe you’re worth spending money on yourself?
What did your parents believe about your worth? Did you have to live up to certain standards to receive love or rewards?
How did your peers treat you when you did something differently from them? How do they treat you now?
How did your friends treat you? Did they accept all the part of you, or did they make fun of you when you didn’t “fit in”? What are they like now?
Do you make fun of people who are different from you? Do you judge them as worth-less or beneath you? Do you accept all the parts of them?
Do you set boundaries when someone treats you like you’re worthless? What are they (be specific)?
What do you say when you don’t want to do something? Do you say anything, or do you do it because you “should” or you don’t want to hurt someone?
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake? When you fail?
How do you talk to yourself when you succeed at something?
How do you think someone you just met would describe you?
How do you think your friends would describe you?
How do you think your family would describe you?
How would someone who doesn’t like you would describe you?
How would you describe yourself?
Feeling anxious, stressed or uncomfortable? Had memories, realizations or thoughts come up that are hard? Time for a quick meditation to let them go.
Imagine you’re holding a balloon. Closing your eyes, take a deep breath in. Now take all those thoughts, feelings, fears and trauma and fill the balloon with them as you breathe out.
Breathe in light and energy, breathe out anything you don’t want to experience. In. And Out.
Keep doing this until you feel like all the pain and discomfort has left. Now, you can either pop the balloon and watch all that discomfort disappear, or let the balloon go and all your fears and worries with it.
Take a deep breath, put your hand to your heart, and say “Thank You. I love you.”