Find a quiet space, take a few deep breaths, and spend some time answering the questions below. Be as open, honest and vulnerable as possible - this space is for you and you alone. You don’t need to share these answers with anyone unless you choose to do so.
When you’re ready, move through to the Practices section.
This reflection section can be quite triggering. Please reach out to a counsellor, coach, trusted friend or family member, or support group if you need extra support while working through this section.
Body Image Reflection Questions
What comments did your parents or caregivers make about their bodies?
What comments did parents or caregivers make about your body?
What comments did parents or caregivers make about their clothing and style? Yours? Other people’s?
What did your classmates and friends say about bodies, gender and weight growing up? What did they say about you and how you looked? What did they say about themselves? Other kids?
What do you remember reading or hearing about body types or sizes and how to dress?
Are you waiting to buy clothing until you reach a certain weight?
Do all of the pieces in your closet fit your body right now?
Do you only buy clothing if it is “flattering” or makes you look a certain way?
Do you think certain styles are only for a specific body type?
Do you think others believe that only a certain kind of body is worth loving? Do you have that body?
Do you think your body is worth experiencing pleasure, whether that comes from having sex, laughing, playing, exercising or eating?
Do you deny yourself foods you enjoy to make sure you stay a certain size or weight?
Do you exercise as a way to get rid of calories you’ve eaten, or to try to be a certain size?
When you close your eyes, can you picture your body exactly as it is now? How does that make you feel?
Do you compare your body to others to see if they’re bigger or smaller? Do you use that as a way to determine if you’re “okay”?
Does your weight impact your mental health?
How do you think your body looks in clothing?
What do you think about your body?
What parts of your body do you hate? Why?
What parts of your body do you love? Why?
Feeling anxious, stressed or uncomfortable? Had memories, realizations or thoughts come up that are hard? Time for a quick meditation to let them go.
Imagine you’re holding a balloon. Closing your eyes, take a deep breath in. Now take all those thoughts, feelings, fears and trauma and fill the balloon with them as you breathe out.
Breathe in light and energy, breathe out anything you don’t want to experience. In. And Out.
Keep doing this until you feel like all the pain and discomfort has left. Now, you can either pop the balloon and watch all that discomfort disappear, or let the balloon go and all your fears and worries with it.
Take a deep breath, put your hand to your heart, and say “Thank You. I love you.”